There is no set way to grieve – we are all individuals and the sort of relationship you had with the person who died will influence the way you cope with losing them. There do, however, seem to be stages to bereavement and it can be helpful to know that any of the following is completely normal.
It can be helpful to see the bereavement process as being a series of tasks: to accept the reality of the death, to work through the emotions associated with the loss, to learn how to cope with the practical differences of living without the support of the person who’s died, and to find new and different way of thinking about them. These tasks relate to the ideas of denial, anger and grief, learning to cope and 'moving on'.
Counselling can help with the bereavement process because it can be difficult to talk openly to friends and family members. You may be worried about upsetting other people who also knew the person who died. You may be concerned that you’re going on and on and that people are getting fed up with you. In counselling the focus is all on you. You can talk as much or as little as you like. Your counsellor will not mind if you become tearful or angry.
Julia Bellerby - Counselling and Life Coaching in York and anywhere in the UK by telephone
Julia Bellerby
Grad. Dip. Counselling BACP Accredited; Dip. Coaching
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